Thoughts on society's gender pendulum?

I've heard the same complaints from women and especially from my daughters. Having experienced one marriage where my spouse cheated and then blamed me for making him cheat, I have my own prejudices. However, after my husband, I dated a few men and found them to be no better and maintained my distance. Finally, I met a man who was solid. He knew who he was and was proud of it. He believed in humanity and tried very hard to live up to humanitarian standards. On his death bed he said, "I can die in peace, now." I cried and he said, "You have made me live up to the man I wanted to become. You gave my life meaning. Your honesty fostered mine, your loyalty fostered mine, your kindness fostered mine and because I trust you implicitly, I love you with all my heart." Personally, I will take his words with me to my grave. I believe that it was necessary for me to have a bad relationship and all the pain that goes along with it for me to learn what to look for and what to correct in the next relationship. Paranoia will only prohibit you from learning. It will not foster the experience and knowledge that you need to identify a quality human being. You've already taken the first step by valuing yourself as a human being and not giving you away shallowly. Now you're ready for commitment, but you don't trust you own judgment enough to make the commitment. Look at your partner and ask your self if they live up to the principles that they profess to believe in or are they at least trying to do that. That's a good start.